I’ve been reflecting on boundaries recently particularly when it comes to self-care.
It may not seem like traditional self-care but setting boundaries has played a key part in my spiritual & self-care journey.
Boundaries come up in all areas of our lives and we can plant them firmly in place with people and with ourselves.
Boundaries are
-Telling your partner you want & need time for you.
-Reminding your kids 8.30 pm is late enough on a school night so you can have some adult time to read a book, watch TV or whatever else floats your boat…
-Leaving work on time
-Deciding not to drink at the weekend
-Choosing to spend time alone instead of with other people
-Going to bed earlier
You deserve to rest, recharge, and have space & time for you.
And setting boundaries will allow you to do this.
Say No to say yes to self-care
And don’t feel guilty for saying No.
If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it.
This includes saying no to;
-People
-Situations
-Things that don’t feel right
-Things that drain you (including people)
-Certain work projects or meetings (do they really need a meeting for that?!)
-Social media (take a break please)
-Kids (boundaries are important and they’ll respect you more for it)
What doesn’t feel good?
When I say this, I’m talking about things that DONT make us feel good or that go against our values and leave us feeling uncomfortable.
Not only will it leave you feeling uncomfortable but it will actually take MORE energy & time to do the thing that you don’t want to do.
You know that feeling when you’re in flow, things feel easy, it’s enjoyable and time fly’s?
That’s what we’re aiming for.
It’s not all sunshine & rainbows
Now, look, there will be things that you don’t want to do, that you will probably have to.
Things like food shopping, parents evening, certain work projects but this process is about being more aware of how these things make you feel and if there is another viable option, then take it.
I picked up the 4 D’s of effective Time Management during my management years, it can easily be used for your own to-do list or responsibilities; all you have to do is decide whether to;
Delete it, Delegate it, Do the thing or Delay it.
It’s Your choice.
Until next time,
Jody x
I hope this has given you some ideas on how you can set boundaries.
If you’d like further help establishing boundaries especially when it comes to self-care, get in touch with me via my email info@spiritualwellness.uk or take a look at my self-care programme
